Having a psychic ability comes with an enormous amount of responsibility.  It is my belief that the Divine God gave some of us this gift, hoping we would use it only for the greater good. Unfortunately, I often find that not to be the case whether it is intentional or not.

I find it frustrating when I hear the stories of a Psychic or Medium who tells people things that are dark, frightening and sometimes dangerous.  These people are not working in the light of all that is good.

In all the readings I have given, there has never been a darkness to any of them.  Like attracts like.  I don’t allow that kind of energy to come into my psychic space.  Each time I meditate before I give a reading, I always ask God to bless the reading and all of those involved and I ask for his permission to allow the communication to take place. 

As I have mentioned before, Mediums often use other Mediums when we are too close to a situation that we either can’t see the answers clearly or we question what we are receiving.  Luckily, I am blessed with the friendship of some incredible, highly gifted Mediums and we often help each other out when we need guidance

However, I have had my own session with a Psychic who caused me to have a very difficult experience that affected me for years. 

About six and a half years ago, my Mother had a serious and painful health situation.  It was something that required months of painful physical therapy, but she was on the road to recovery and doing very well. But when in my own pain, I sought out a woman I knew who did Reiki energy work.  I was my Mothers caregiver and I had so much tightness and pain in my neck and shoulders from everything we had been through to that point, I needed something other than a muscle relaxer.  I did not go to her for a reading.

But during my Reiki session she asked me what was going on in my life since she had seen me.  I told her of my Moms injury and some other things related to my work.  She began to give me a reading, which I had not asked for.  She told me things about someone connected to my work who was trying to destroy everything my husband and I had worked for.  She knew about the woman’s children and their drug use and the health of the woman’s husband etc.  I didn’t think much of it, but then right in the middle of this, she told me that my Mother was going to die, and soon.  At that moment, everything in my world stopped.  I thought she had misunderstood what I said of my Moms painful situation.  I looked at her and said “no, she is doing really well”.  She said “ the doctors are missing something.  It’s her heart”.   She said she felt a heart problem when she had come to my home earlier that year to do Reiki on my Mom for her arthritis.   I was stunned.  I was in complete shock.  I kept running everything she was saying thru my head and I was terrified.  I told her I wasn’t ready for that and her words still haunt me to this day.
“We are never ready for it, but it will be ok. You will be fine and your career as a Medium will take off like crazy and you will be well known for your gifts”.   I remember thinking “I don’t give a damn about by gifts.  My Mother is more important to me than any gift”.

I remember getting my purse and leaving, but I was still in shock.  On my way home, I called my sister who lives out of state and told her what happened.  She kept telling me “no Judy. I don’t believe that”.  I got home and called my husband and told him.  He didn’t know what to think.

I can’t even begin to explain what that did to me.  I lived with so much fear. My Mother and I have always been extremely close and the thought of losing her was my biggest fear.  I spend so much of my time doing my best as a healer to keep her alive and well. 

I was so afraid of what might happen to her, that I wouldn’t leave my Mom alone.  I wouldn’t even go to the store without having someone else home with her.  Every pain or minor health issue that came up I would think to myself “This is it!  She is dying!!  OMG.  NO!”

I even had her doctor run tests on her that were not really warranted but he checked her heart and all her major organs.  He did blood work at my request, you name it.  While this may sound ridiculous to some, this was the thought process brought on by what I had been told.  While I tried to dismiss it, my mind kept analyzing the other things that she got right, and told myself if she got those things right, then she must be right about this.

I even asked my closest Medium friends, if they felt anything was wrong, and they kept telling me to let it go, as they didn’t feel that at all.  I tried.  But I lived with so much fear and dread.  Months went by and I tried to let go of the fear, but I would lay awake most of the night, worrying.  One evening, I had a visitation from my Dad who passed some time ago.  He obviously knew what this was doing to me.  He didn’t tell me anything about my Mom, but instead showed me a picture of this psychic woman with the word “alarmist” above her head. I knew what that meant and it gave me a little bit of peace, coming from my Dad.

Still, it took me over three years before I would let go of what this woman told me.  I finally stopped giving it any energy and I took back my power.

It’s been six and a half years and I still have my Mom.  They have never found any heart problems as this woman told me she had.  My Mother is now almost 89 years old and healthy. She has mobility issues, but she is strong, and I thank God for every day I have with her.

I know that this woman didn’t mean me harm.  She gave me what she thought she was picking up about my Mom.  I have come to believe that she was picking up on the mother of the person she had been telling me was trying to destroy our business because her mother actually passed away a few months after that.  I don’t hate her, and I don’t question that she has some gifts, but I question her intent.  I feel she needs to reevaluate the information she gives and  realize what something like that can do to a person, especially when she can’t know for sure if she is getting the information correct.

As a Medium I know that we don’t always get it right.  It’s up to us to interpret the signs, symbols, pictures and its subject to human error.  We do our best, but we aren’t always right.  We have a responsibility to make sure we only work with the light of God and that we do no harm.  Most people who come to a Medium for a reading do so because they are grieving the loss of a loved one.  The last thing we should do is add to that grief.  A reading should be all about healing.

This is the danger that I am talking about.  Before any Medium or Psychic gives that kind of information, they should wait until the person asks them for it AND they better make damn sure they are correct.   I also need to ask, why would you give that kind of information to someone regardless.  This isn’t information coming from the light.  It’s not for the greater good, and the fact that she was so matter of fact and discarded my feelings and fears by telling me that it’s ok because my career would be amazing? Seriously?  Can you imagine the damage than can be done to a relationship if a Psychic told you that your spouse was cheating or that one of you was about to lose your job?  Those seeds are planted and it’s very difficult to let go, even when our gut tells us they are wrong. Suspicion and fear can remain.  It’s not right.

So, when I hear friends who have been to a Psychic tell me some of the things they are told, it makes me furious.  Many times, these psychics don’t understand what they are seeing and perhaps they need to work on their skills or better yet, realize they may not actually be a Medium but a clairvoyant who misinterprets what they see.

I hear stories of another local “Medium” who has told several people I know who have lost someone to suicide, that their loved one is on a ladder.  “They can’t decide if they should go up or down.”  WHAT…?  Whenever I do a reading with a suicide connection, they have NEVER said anything like that.  They usually come in with their head down because they are ashamed, or embarrassed for doing so, but they have never been made to feel that they were going to a place of outer darkness, or that their soul was less worthy.  What these Psychics don’t understand is that the ladder represents their thoughts before they made the decision to take their life, not after they passed.  It’s like someone who is “on the fence” about something.  Same thing.  It doesn’t mean that the loved one is waiting to see if they make it to Heaven or end up in hell.  That is nonsense and it’s wrong.

This all goes back to responsibility.  Since that Reiki session over six years ago, I have not talked with the Psychic who told me that.  I stopped going to the gift shop where she did her Reiki and readings because it still haunted me and although it was a place I loved to go, the energy had shifted for me.  I realized the darkness of it and I have chosen to only go there if I am with someone who really wants to go.

So as a word of caution, be very careful in choosing a Psychic or Medium.  They are not all the same.  They do not all work in the light.  Some of them are trying to make a living and build their career and will say things to try to keep you coming back.  If you are worried about a loved one, sometimes you will be tempted to do whatever they tell you to do.  They may convince you to pay more money for them to “clear” your energy or “heal” you or your loved one.  Remove curses or chase away a dark entity around you.  They will tell you they can help your child who may see spirit, and for a mere fee, they will teach you how to be a medium or healer.  The problem with that is you can’t learn to be a healer or a medium. You are born with those gifts, they cannot be learned.  You either have that ability or you don’t.  Everyone can tap into their own intuition, but not everyone is a psychic. You can use your own intuition to help you in your life, but your intuition may not be as strong as another’s.

If you have any of the psychic abilities, you can learn to strengthen it and direct it accordingly, whether you choose to use it to help others or just help yourself.  But taking a class or an online course that claims to create an ability that wasn’t there to begin with, won’t make you a Medium and taking a class to learn about the chakras and crystals won’t make you a healer. You may have a certificate from a class, but you may just be a person with some rocks. If any healing is obtained, it’s coming from the properties of the crystals, not from you.

Everyone can sing a song, but not everyone is Pavarotti.