Residual energy

 

Everyone handles grief in their own way.  Some people find it easier to donate the belongings of their loved ones soon after they pass.  Others hang on to them for years, even keeping their clothes in the closet long after they have passed.

 

There is no right or wrong way. It’s whatever feels best for you.  However, it is suggested by many grief counselors that it is best not to make any major decisions, such as selling a home or moving to another place, for a year or two. 

 

Grief can cloud your judgment and cause you to make poor decisions based on guilt, anger, and fear.

 

If you have a hard time staying in the home you shared with your loved one because the memories are too difficult, instead of selling the home and leaving, try painting a different color on the walls, a new slip cover for the sofa or maybe some new artwork.  Even simply rearranging the furniture can be just enough change to make a difference.

 

I am one of those people who hang on to things because I feel the residual energy of the person I love.  It doesn’t matter if it’s something they wore or something they used or even a book they liked to read.  I can hold it in my hand and actually feel their energy.

 

It is my belief that many people experience this and that is why they subconsciously hang onto items they would normally not.

 

I have a pair of my Grandmothers eyeglasses and even after nearly 30 years, I can hold the glasses in my hand and not only sense her, I can smell her and hear her laugh and eventually see her.

 

Not everyone can connect as quickly as a Medium, but don’t give up trying.  Sit in a quite place and hold onto that pocket knife or book or wallet etc.  Close your eyes and try to connect to your loved one.  You may be surprised how much you sense.

 

In the same regard, you may feel the person’s residual energy in your home and surroundings.  After my Father passed away, it was easy for me to pick up his energy, but even other family members who are not Mediums were able to sense “pockets” of his energy in certain places in and outside the house.

 

For some, feeling residual energy may seem “creepy” if you don’t understand what you are sensing.  For others, it can be a huge comfort, especially during the grieving process.