It’s been some time since my last blog post and although I would like to say its’s because I have been enjoying the summer and traveling about, the truth is, sometimes I just don’t feel like I have anything to say that others can relate to.  Believe it or not, I am a very private person and for me to even have a webpage, let alone tell personal stories and details, is rather difficult for me.

But this morning I when I woke, I was guided to write about the topic of visitations from spirit.

Even being a Medium, there are times when I have to rely on other Mediums to get the messages from those in spirit connected to me.   One thing I have learned over time is that no matter what it is that I am hoping to hear, it does not mean I will get the answers I ask for, or when I feel I need  them the most.

There are people who believe that being a Medium means we don’t grieve like everyone else because we can see and communicate with our lost loved ones.  Unfortunately that simply isn’t true.  I was given a gift for the purpose of helping others heal, but I still struggle with my own grief, even more frustrated by the fact that I can’t always connect to my own.

Anyone who has lost a loved one knows the feeling I am about to describe.   That emptiness in the deepest part of your soul which longs for that embrace, that smile or the sound of their voice.  It’s not because we don’t have people we love around us now and it’s not because we are lacking something in our life to make us happy.  I am a happy person.  I have a loving family and great friends and I love my life.   But some days, out of nowhere, that pain and sadness comes crashing back.

People are put in our life for a reason and each one makes an impact.  Even after they pass, our need for their love and wisdom and physical presence remains.  Every now and then, if we are lucky they will visit us in our dreams.  As I have talked about before, there are differences between a dream involving our loved ones and a true visitation.  Those precious few moments when you are just falling asleep or just waking, are usually the most common time for visits.  Not completely asleep, but enough for the conscious mind to let go so that our soul is open to seeing and hearing them.  This is when the best  visual details and clearest messages come through.

In this state of consciousness, we are able to receive the embraces and actually feel them next to us. We can each receive messages and clarity from them about current situations in our life and what it is our soul needs to feel and hear.   We are also more willing to accept what is given to us.  The one thing that is hardest to understand is that all of this works on their schedule… not ours.

Allow to me try to explain what I mean by that.  I have had a lot going on lately and most all of it is something that I would have involved my Dad.  It has made me miss him even more.  After a few weeks of thinking “what would Dad do?”, I finally received the much needed hug and support from him that I was hoping for as he visited me just as I was waking.  The following day, I noticed that he was making his presence known by allowing me to see him several times throughout  the day. I sarcastically told him thanks but I could have used that a week ago.  His reply was so honest and so true.  He gave me this huge smile, and he laughed and said “ A week ago you weren’t ready to hear my answer”.    

Now mind you, I am not afraid to talk back to them when I disagree and when I am upset or angry, I tell them.  I know that I am safe in doing so because they can see the whole picture from their vantage point and they know why I am feeling that way and they understand, even if I am wrong, they understand.   I smiled and gave him a slight attitude and responded “ well… maybe so”.    Lucky for me he didn’t leave lol, but instead continued to grin at me and tease me about recent decisions and ideas I have pondered.  I knew at that moment he was right.  When I thought I needed the answers from him, what I needed was to find my way through it and make my own decisions and allow him to guide me without telling me what to do.  But in the end, I am just a girl who misses her Dad.

This works the same for every one of us. We often feel overwhelmed when confronted with a situation where we would have normally relied on them for support and answers but now we are faced to move through it without them.  The truth is, we are never without them but they offer a supportive role while allowing us to find our way through it.

Many of you who read this are struggling with something this very moment.  Whatever it is that you are going through, know that your loved ones are going through it with you.  Whether it’s the child you lost, the parent or spouse, sibling or friend  you are grieving, know that they will make their appearance through visitations when you least expect it and when they know you are ready and open to receive it.  It’s ok to ask them to visit you, just don’t be disappointed if it doesn’t happen when you feel you need it most.  Trust them.  They know more about what is best for you and your journey than you do and when the timing is right, and your mindset is open, they will comfort you.  In the meantime, try to still your mind and listen.  Use your inner knowing, your own intuition to guide you, as this allows them to help you through those difficult situations and fears.