Forgiveness…. Yes.. that thing we are all suppose to do in order to achieve access to the kingdom of God.  Well I am sorry to say that I am a work in progress.

 
I know I have wronged others in the past. None of us are perfect.  But I have tried to think of all those who I might have offended or hurt and apologize to them. And above all, to make sure I never hurt them again.

But there are those people in our lives who have done us wrong and we forgive them, only to have them do it again …. and again… and again.

This is true not only of friends in my life but also in-laws, business associates and relatives.

I admit it, I have walls.  Although I forgive, I never forget when someone has wronged me again and again.  I have gotten pretty good at wishing them well, and at the same time, removing them from my life.

The more I learn from those in spirit, I know this isn’t the “preferred” way to resolve drama and conflict, but for me, it’s getting easier to just close the door on those who cause me pain and drama. One thing I have learned without a doubt is that life is too short to have conflict and drama in our daily lives and I refuse to live in chaos created by another’s bullshit.

I have seen the face of evil. I have seen it more than once, and in more than one face. These are people whose words spew like acid and they burn everyone they come in contact with. No one is immune to their negativity and they don’t care who they hurt. They love to cause drama and conflict and in fact, they plot to create it and try to secretly design a plan to bring down those who live in peace and light.


I see it everyday in one form or another.  I see it in business dealings, where those who are in a position of authority use their power to install fear and use intimidation to create unrest in the lives of those they wish to control.


I see it in those who lie and twist conversations and situations into something where they either can benefit from it, or look like a victim to receive sympathy from others. Those who refuse to take responsibility for their own actions and instead, blame others for their situation, is one that I find intolerable.  I am not talking about your average “drama queen”, these are people who are narcissistic in nature and thrive on the misfortune and pain of others. They are miserable in their own lives and don’t want anyone else to be happy.

People will say “Oh…that is water under the bridge”.  But when you play with another person’s life and their feelings, that shouldn’t just wash away with the water under the bridge and until I am convinced that they are genuinely sorry for their actions, they are no longer welcome in my life.

So, yes, I am a work in progress when it comes to forgiving and forgetting.  But when you hurt someone I love, you are no longer a part of my life.